If I may to barge in, I have some thoughts on this topic. The moral ambiguity of the Order's recruiting brings to mind Robert King Merton's sociological theory of manifest and latent functionalism, in which he discusses and differentiates between intended effects of cultural behavior and its unintentional byproduct. There's a good chance that you've heard of it you've got a degree in humanities. Anyway, the most often given example is that of the Hopi tribe and their ritual dance: they dance to bring forth rain - the idea that together they can make it rain is the intended, manifest function of their ritual, but what's in fact far more important (though they didn't presumably fully realize it) is the that the common goal and the enjoyment bring the tribe together and strengthen bonds between its members - the unintended latent function.
Why I'm writing all this: I imagine that something similar is going on with the Jedi and their recruiting and childrearing practices. Yes, the great part of why they take children from their parents is control. But, I think they don't fully realize it. At least not in the way that it would give them a pause and ma ke them reconsider. It's latent. They don't see it as an attempt to manipulate/indoctrinate/isolate young Force-sensitive children. They would most likely be genuinely terrified and offended at the very idea that someone accuses them of such malevolent practices!
As for how they explain their child-taking ways? I think there are several points: 1, The Will of the Force: They're a religious group that apparently believes the Force is a semi-conscious godlike entity that has intentions and goals. Which means, if a child is born that potentially has the ability to interact with the Force, it means that their god wishes that the child should be taught to learn its ways. Why else would it be given the gift? It's the child's birthright to live in communion with the Force, to serve it, and Do Good in its name.
Actually, this is quite interesting in regards to Force-sensitives who were found "too late" or not at all such as Anakin or Maul. Do the Jedi believe it's the Order's failing that they were not able to find them in time? Or do they believe that the Force had different plans with these individuals or possibly that while Force-sensitive, they were otherwise defective in some other way? The former would imply that the Force has a grander plan beyond the Order's beliefs, the latter that the Force makes mistakes.
Another thing: they do not quite have the inherent trust in a family's ability or desire to protect a Force sensitive child. Due to their upbringing, Jedi's normal is very different from our normal. Having parents is alien to them. No one in the Order has known their mother or father, but they are fine anyway. So way should they be horrified at the idea of a child growing up without parents? As for the parents, they should selflessly overcome their feelings and be happy for their child.
Second point, not all families are happy and functional. Jedi must be aware of it due to the nature of their occupation. If the GFFA is _anything_ like our world, we can be reasonably sure that on planets with hereditary rulers there are inheritance wars, you can find people who kill their relatives to inherit their wealth, child abuse within families is more common than anyone would like to admit, some parents treat their children merely as useful commodity that can be sold or killed if deemed unprofitable (let's just think of all the cultures that consider girls lesser, in which many parents sell them as child brides, or abandon or kill them upon birth like in China during the era of one child policy). Et cetera, et cetera.
Long story short, given that the Jedi don't tend to get close with other people and don't really care about other people's personal lives unless there's some sort of conflict or criminal activity, it's likely they get to see more of the negative side of family life than the positives. Consenquently, they may belive that family as an institution is overrated and view other people putting it on pedestal as irrational.
Recruiting
The moral ambiguity of the Order's recruiting brings to mind Robert King Merton's sociological theory of manifest and latent functionalism, in which he discusses and differentiates between intended effects of cultural behavior and its unintentional byproduct. There's a good chance that you've heard of it you've got a degree in humanities. Anyway, the most often given example is that of the Hopi tribe and their ritual dance: they dance to bring forth rain - the idea that together they can make it rain is the intended, manifest function of their ritual, but what's in fact far more important (though they didn't presumably fully realize it) is the that the common goal and the enjoyment bring the tribe together and strengthen bonds between its members - the unintended latent function.
Why I'm writing all this: I imagine that something similar is going on with the Jedi and their recruiting and childrearing practices. Yes, the great part of why they take children from their parents is control. But, I think they don't fully realize it. At least not in the way that it would give them a pause and ma ke them reconsider. It's latent. They don't see it as an attempt to manipulate/indoctrinate/isolate young Force-sensitive children. They would most likely be genuinely terrified and offended at the very idea that someone accuses them of such malevolent practices!
As for how they explain their child-taking ways? I think there are several points:
1, The Will of the Force: They're a religious group that apparently believes the Force is a semi-conscious godlike entity that has intentions and goals. Which means, if a child is born that potentially has the ability to interact with the Force, it means that their god wishes that the child should be taught to learn its ways. Why else would it be given the gift? It's the child's birthright to live in communion with the Force, to serve it, and Do Good in its name.
Actually, this is quite interesting in regards to Force-sensitives who were found "too late" or not at all such as Anakin or Maul. Do the Jedi believe it's the Order's failing that they were not able to find them in time? Or do they believe that the Force had different plans with these individuals or possibly that while Force-sensitive, they were otherwise defective in some other way? The former would imply that the Force has a grander plan beyond the Order's beliefs, the latter that the Force makes mistakes.
2, Protection: The Sith may be no more (as far as the Jedi are aware), but minor Darkside-leaning groups remain. The case in point are the Nightsisters/Nighbrothers. We don't see them kidnap any children, but if an opportunity presented itself or a human trafficant came with a good offer... Which leads to other groups that may have nefarious intentions towards Force sensitive children. As a baby, Ahsoka had been almost kidnapped by slavers posing as Jedi, years later it nearly happened again at the hands of Hondo Ohnaka. It's quite possible that their younglings are locked away in the créche not only in effort to isolate them, but to protect them from being carried away by people who view them as precious commodity.
Another thing: they do not quite have the inherent trust in a family's ability or desire to protect a Force sensitive child.
Due to their upbringing, Jedi's normal is very different from our normal. Having parents is alien to them. No one in the Order has known their mother or father, but they are fine anyway. So way should they be horrified at the idea of a child growing up without parents? As for the parents, they should selflessly overcome their feelings and be happy for their child.
Second point, not all families are happy and functional. Jedi must be aware of it due to the nature of their occupation. If the GFFA is _anything_ like our world, we can be reasonably sure that on planets with hereditary rulers there are inheritance wars, you can find people who kill their relatives to inherit their wealth, child abuse within families is more common than anyone would like to admit, some parents treat their children merely as useful commodity that can be sold or killed if deemed unprofitable (let's just think of all the cultures that consider girls lesser, in which many parents sell them as child brides, or abandon or kill them upon birth like in China during the era of one child policy). Et cetera, et cetera.
Long story short, given that the Jedi don't tend to get close with other people and don't really care about other people's personal lives unless there's some sort of conflict or criminal activity, it's likely they get to see more of the negative side of family life than the positives. Consenquently, they may belive that family as an institution is overrated and view other people putting it on pedestal as irrational.
Wow, this got insanely long. I apologize!