Those are all really good and interesting points and I'm sure the Jedi use it to justify their behavior, both to themselves and to others.
The too-old Force sensitives thing is a thorny issue. In the Ahsoka novel, she meets a girl who is an untrained Force sensitive and is like, damn, that's a waste. In the Clone Wars, it turns out that there are other Force-based religions and the two groups have clashed historically because the Jedi Order keeps trying to take their kids without the permission of the planet's religious authority. Do the Jedi look down their noses at the people in that religious tradition and see their practices as a waste of Force-given talent? In the show, it kind of seems like they might. They dismiss their Bardottan's complaints about Jedi recruitment and then casually violate their planets' ban on visiting Jedi because of course they know better. Man, I'm not sure where I'm going with this, but Jedi clearly seem to think they have a right to Force sensitive children, whatever their justifications.
Re: Recruiting
The too-old Force sensitives thing is a thorny issue. In the Ahsoka novel, she meets a girl who is an untrained Force sensitive and is like, damn, that's a waste. In the Clone Wars, it turns out that there are other Force-based religions and the two groups have clashed historically because the Jedi Order keeps trying to take their kids without the permission of the planet's religious authority. Do the Jedi look down their noses at the people in that religious tradition and see their practices as a waste of Force-given talent? In the show, it kind of seems like they might. They dismiss their Bardottan's complaints about Jedi recruitment and then casually violate their planets' ban on visiting Jedi because of course they know better. Man, I'm not sure where I'm going with this, but Jedi clearly seem to think they have a right to Force sensitive children, whatever their justifications.