I had not seen that particular quote before, but I love that they made the brown man a sexist and created a non-sense character clothed to be sexy in order to support that character ret-con. Like, on the surface, heroism vs. true leadership is a really interesting character arc, but he flubs it on the dismount, and not just with the sexism. How? By also making Holdo a really lousy leader. True leaders don't have their underlings mutiny against them because they handle things in such a way that people feel secure in their ability to handle the situation. Literally no one did except Holdo's inner circle and, instead, Poe was able to rally a good number of the crew to take action against her. The fact that she ends up eventually making a heroic sacrifice doesn't make her a good leader. It only highlighted the fact that she needed to because she failed to inspire confidence in her people in the first place.

A better re-wtite would have been, I don't know, putting her in a proper uniform and having her give Poe a problem he couldn't shoot his way out of that he had to solve by leading and inspiring others to work with him.